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THREE WOMEN, THREE STORIES

Love may be the only experience we all share. Love makes us human. It brings us to the extreme ends of the spectrum of human emotion, from feelings of overwhelming joy to unparalleled heartbreak. But what does real love look like? And how has love changed over time?

The Way We Love is a documentary exploring how we love in the modern world. How do we know we are with the right person? How does love change as we age? What hardships do we all face?

Featuring three women with three very different stories, but whom all share a deep understanding of the human condition and what it means to be in love.

THE CHARACTERS

DEBBIE

CELESTE

MARLEY

LOVE OVER TIME

How have relationships and dating changed over time? We know now that LGBT relationships are more accepted than they used to be. We also know that online interactions now play a large role in the dating sphere.

How Couples Meet

Marley met her girlfriend on Facebook. Debbie met her husband at work. And Celeste met her both of her partners online. It’s true that online interaction has helped couples meet all across the world, but how much how it really changed how couples meet? Let’s find out.

As you can see by the interactive graphs below, the search for love has changed a lot since the 1930’s. In 1940, family and church were common ways to find a romantic partner. By 1990, nearly 40% of couples met through friends. Now, online connections are growing – particularly for those interested in same-sex relationships – but increasingly for older and middle-aged straight people too.

Source: Rosenfeld, Michael J., Reuben J. Thomas, and Maja Falcon. 2015. How Couples Meet and Stay Together, Waves 1, 2, and 3: Public version 3.04, plus wave 4 supplement version 1.02 and wave 5 supplement version 1.0 [Computer files]. Stanford, CA: Stanford University Libraries.








Polyamory and Same-Sex Relationships in America

New data shows that Americans are more accepting non-traditional types of relationships than ever before. For example, public opinion on gay marriage has practically flipped in favor of it since 2001. Public opinion on polygamy and polyamory, though still seen in large as immoral, has still doubled from 7% of people viewing polygamy as ‘morally acceptable’ in 2001 to 14% in 2016.

What could this mean for the future of these relationships? It is clear that same-sex relationships enjoy the fastest rate of acceptance among non-traditional relationships, but polyamory may not be far behind. Is the legalization of gay marriage in the U.S. a sign of things to come for polygamous relationships? Ross Douthat, a columnist for The New York Times, predicts that polygamy could be legalized in the U.S. as early as 2040. Read on to see the rates of change in acceptance for these relationships over the past 15 years.

Sources: Mitchell, T. (2016, May 12). Changing Attitudes on Gay Marriage. Retrieved November 05, 2016. Swift, A. (2016, June 8). Birth Control, Divorce Top List of Morally Acceptable Issues. Retrieved November 5, 2016.

HISTORY OF DATING

Nowadays, love is just a click away. As the world gets smaller, it is easier than ever before to find romance. Online dating as we know it, however, isn’t exactly a new idea. Advertising for a partner has a history going back to the 17th century.

Despite the popularity of the personal ad, ever since they began in the 1600s, many people have viewed the act of advertising yourself (whether in the paper or online) as cold and calculating – and even sad. As we saw above, these attitudes have changed. Celeste met both of her partners online, and teenagers like Marley use social media in dating like never before.

Scroll below to view a timeline of the history of ‘online dating’ as we know it.

LOVE LETTERS

Love letters used to be just that – a note sent in the mail to a lover or loved one. The definition has expanded over the years, and now love letters come in a multitude of forms – through email, text messages, and even snapchat.

Below is a gallery of “love letters” – old and new – gathered from couples across the country.

WHAT’S YOUR STORY?

We are always on the lookout for great love stories, whether they be about an innocent crush or a long-distance affair. Do you have someone in mind? We’d love to hear from you. Please fill out the form below and let’s talk!

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